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My Ashford University Experience

Vanessa is a 24-year-old stay-at-home mom, wife, military spouse, and veteran. She started her online education while she was still in the Navy. After receiving an honorable discharge, getting married, and having two beautiful girls in two years, she is still going strong with her education at Ashford University. She is currently doubling up on classes with hopes to attend graduation December 2009 with a Bachelor's in Business Administration.

Get Happy: It's your responsibility to do so

Should you be happy in your work?  Of course everyone wants to be happy in what they do, but should it be a condition imposed upon you employer?  In my tenure within the current position I have seen dozens of people throw away a steady good paying job (given their respective qualifications) because they were not happy with their workplace for one reason or another.  The strange part is that some of the most bitter and vocal among them have tried to come back to their old job after not finding happiness elsewhere.

Sometimes not being happy at your job or even school is because of a poor fit.  For example if your talents, education and/or passion are for accounting but you end up as a computer programmer, you may be unhappy, but this is not the fault of your employer.  It is up to you to know who you are.

Another case where you may be unhappy is if you find yourself being influenced by people and circumstances beyond your control within your workplace.  This situation is more difficult to handle.  First and foremost you have to realize that the only person responsible for your happiness is you and it is a choice that you have to make.  That being said it is completely understandable that after a while factors and people within the workplace can batter down your resolve to be happy, just choose not to make it a permanent arraignment.  Try to control your emotions separately than the influences around you.  Perhaps I can discuss this again in the future.

Lastly your personal life and factors at home can have more of an impact upon your happiness at work than you realize.  Your wife/husband, kids or school work can cause you to feel additional stress, at times feeling overworked, overwhelmed and like your life is out of control.  Whenever we get these sensations we often times start to begrudge or dislike anyone putting additional stress, work or obligations upon us, even if work related.  This can cause you to become unconsciously but effectively irritable at your employer without even realizing it.  Yet another topic for future discussion?

Personally I am seeing that being happy is actually a learned habit.  Even if you don't feel happy, act like you do.  Of course this is "faking" it, but it can ultimately change your natural disposition.  Thus one should "act" happy until it becomes a matter of habit and they "become" happy.  Realize that your employer cannot control your mood or happiness nor are they responsible for it, even if they can control some of the influences upon your mood.  Realize that if you are unhappy, you are the cause, it is up to you to determine the "why" and the proper action to remedy the situation.  Lastly realize that if you do not change you, changing your circumstances will only change the scenery surrounding your misery, whether that is a job change, a spouse change or even if you just give away your kids (you can't really do that you know).

Being happy will reflect upon everything you do, from school work to how you drive.  It is a responsibility we all have.  Unhappy people are contagious, just like happy people, but only one group changes the world for the better.  Which group are you in? 


Personally I am struggling with this myself and am resolving to act happy until I am.  Hopefully this works.

Cheers

 

---Cajun

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Published Wednesday, August 01, 2007 5:54 PM by Cajun

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Victoria said:

I agree - 100 percent!

At my last company, I was bored at my job. Instead of simply leaving the firm altogether, I asked for more responsibility. That led to my promotion. In the new position, I was exposed to more, and had to negotiate a heightened level of office politics. It was tough, and the nature of the work was very stressful.

Even though I eventually decided that I did not like my field/job, I am glad that I tried to find another way to make it work at that particular company. I gave it a shot, you know?

There is so much more I could say in response to this post - THANK YOU CAJUN!! Great topic!

August 2, 2007 10:54 AM
 

MichelleA said:

Great post :-)  Acting happy can eventually change your disposition on life, but you can't hope that that's all you need to do to to keep yourself happy.  A lot of times a person can act happy, but they're just bottling up their feelings, and that could lead to more unhappiness.  Acting happy does help, but you just need to make sure that you're trying to improve upon whatever it is that is making you unhappy in the first place. :-)

August 2, 2007 11:21 AM
 

Cajun said:

Michelle, good point.  Maybe I'll do a part II and I'll cover that as well.  Generally if anyone is unhappy there is a root cause, you've got to find that cause.  There is a book called Man's Search for Meaning by Victor Frankl where he states that during his tenure in a WWII Nazi concentration camp that he had everything, including his name taken from him except for his ability to decide for himself how he would react to his situation.  Being able to control your emotions and feelings can be a key to a type of freedom.

August 2, 2007 12:52 PM
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About Cajun

Cajun is 31-years-old and currently employed as a Project Analyst for an Information Technology department at a major financial firm. He has recently changed careers after spending 7 years in Federal Law enforcement of which he spent 5 years as a supervisor. His management experience combined with the MBA he finished in October, 2008 allowed for a career change even in the face of these uncertain economic times.

Cajun was introduced to the concept of distance education while working full-time as a law enforcement officer with a demanding and unpredictable schedule, obtaining an Associate of Science degree in Criminal Justice from Ashworth College, a Bachelor of Science degree in Criminal Justice from Southwestern College of Winfield, KS graduating Magna Cum Laude and a Master of Business Administration with an emphasis in Organizational Leadership from Ashford University. To further his new career Cajun will be working towards a Master of Science in Management of Information Systems with an emphasis in Project Management from Bellevue University.

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Vanessa is a 24-year-old stay-at-home mom, wife, military spouse, and veteran. She started her online education while she was still in the Navy. After receiving an honorable discharge, getting married, and having two beautiful girls in two years, she is still going strong with her education at Ashford University. She is currently doubling up on classes with hopes to attend graduation December 2009 with a Bachelor's in Business Administration.

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