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My Ashford University Experience

Vanessa is a 24-year-old stay-at-home mom, wife, military spouse, and veteran. She started her online education while she was still in the Navy. After receiving an honorable discharge, getting married, and having two beautiful girls in two years, she is still going strong with her education at Ashford University. She is currently doubling up on classes with hopes to attend graduation December 2009 with a Bachelor's in Business Administration.

Avoiding the Haters

There is a slang term for people who are envious of your success yet make no attempt to duplicate that success through the same methods you have used, like hard work and sacrifice, they are called "haters".  When I first heard the term "hater" I have to admit I thought it was stupid and more than a bit "street", but after getting a little more ahead in life and seeing the reactions of some of those around me, I have to admit, there is credence to the term.  If you haven't run in to these haters, you will.  They are the ones who will call you "college boy/girl" behind your back.  They are the ones who tell you how much school is a waste of time or they give you a hundred reasons why they themselves wouldn't waste the time doing this or that.  They say things like "college is overrated" or "having a degree doesn't mean that they are smarter than anyone else" and other seemingly wise but obviously lacking in perception little quotes on life and getting ahead. 

Do I have these people in my life?  Absolutely, probably about a dozen or more.  They are the kind of people who aren't willing to work for anything, assuming everyone else is just like them and that the only way anyone gets ahead is by kissing backside or stepping on the heads of other people.  They resent success of any kind and don't want anyone to get ahead of where they are in life.  They refuse to move up and try to pull down those around them who attempt to move up themselves.  Are these people always nasty and demeaning?  Not in my experience, frequently these people are those whom you may call "friend", but in reality there is an almost sarcastic smirk on their face when you talk about school or education and a type of begrudging congratulations or resentment when you complete something you set out to do.

So why do I bring this up?  Because these people are poisonous to your success.  Tonight I find the wind knocked out of my sails by someone just like I have described above.  It's funny, but at times work that seems exhausting can seem doubly so after about 5 minutes with a person like this.  Reason doesn't seem to be a successful tactic to use with these type of people because they are not coming from a place of reason, but reacting off of some kind of emotion, like jealousy.  Having someone like this around you very often can be draining upon your will power and I recommend you avoid these persons at all costs.

If you want to get ahead in life, asking the forty year old guy who is scrubbing the urinal at 9:00PM every night is probably not the best tactic to take.  Instead surround yourself with people who have similar goals or have achieved things that you want to achieve.  Look to sources of encouragement, people who support you and not those who want to justify their lack of action by causing your failure.  Look for the positive people and hold them close, listen to them and keep motivated.

The single toughest challenge any online or distance learning student will ever face is that of self motivation.  Don't make your journey any harder, avoid the baggage that the haters want to lay on you. 

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Published Wednesday, June 13, 2007 1:05 AM by Cajun

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MichelleA said:

That is all so very true.  A lot of times you don't even realize when your friends are being detrimental to your self esteem.  It's not only limited to your friends either, I had a problem with a few administrators being very negative about me completing my degree.  Everyone telling me that I couldn't do it was frustrating enough to make me want to continue and finish it out of spite and now I'm one year away from finishing my degree!  :-)  Don't let the haters get to you, prove them wrong!

June 13, 2007 9:13 AM
 

Victoria said:

My friends and I have a phrase we use: "Don't sip the Hater-Ade." (rhymes with Gatorade)

We say it to remind ourselves: don't give in to all the surrounding negativity.

June 13, 2007 9:52 AM
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About Cajun

Cajun is 31-years-old and currently employed as a Project Analyst for an Information Technology department at a major financial firm. He has recently changed careers after spending 7 years in Federal Law enforcement of which he spent 5 years as a supervisor. His management experience combined with the MBA he finished in October, 2008 allowed for a career change even in the face of these uncertain economic times.

Cajun was introduced to the concept of distance education while working full-time as a law enforcement officer with a demanding and unpredictable schedule, obtaining an Associate of Science degree in Criminal Justice from Ashworth College, a Bachelor of Science degree in Criminal Justice from Southwestern College of Winfield, KS graduating Magna Cum Laude and a Master of Business Administration with an emphasis in Organizational Leadership from Ashford University. To further his new career Cajun will be working towards a Master of Science in Management of Information Systems with an emphasis in Project Management from Bellevue University.

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Vanessa is a 24-year-old stay-at-home mom, wife, military spouse, and veteran. She started her online education while she was still in the Navy. After receiving an honorable discharge, getting married, and having two beautiful girls in two years, she is still going strong with her education at Ashford University. She is currently doubling up on classes with hopes to attend graduation December 2009 with a Bachelor's in Business Administration.

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