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Vanessa is a 24-year-old stay-at-home mom, wife, military spouse, and veteran. She started her online education while she was still in the Navy. After receiving an honorable discharge, getting married, and having two beautiful girls in two years, she is still going strong with her education at Ashford University. She is currently doubling up on classes with hopes to attend graduation December 2009 with a Bachelor's in Business Administration.

Feeling Overwhelmed

Do you ever feel overwhelmed?

I am writing this post right in the middle of an assignment that has, well frankly, been a bit overwhelming. Oh it wasn’t the complexity of the work; it has been the amount of work involved. In this particular case I am working on a writing lab where I have to take multiple little quizzes between reading segments, then when I get done I post about what I’ve learned.

Oh sure, it’s not a big deal, neither is an ant, but when you get what seems like a few hundred of the little buggers the stress level rises.

So I’m reflecting over my mood and why I have this feeling and though I hate to admit it, I feel this way because I expected the assignment to be a quick one or two practice exams, not 23 or 24. So my expectations are what set me up for feeling overwhelmed. Frankly I cannot blame anyone but myself since I am the one who set my expectations thus.

So have you ever felt similarly overwhelmed by an assignment? Perhaps it was something you did not understand and you felt ill prepared or perhaps the complexity or scope of the assignment seemed out of your personal bounds? Have you ever stopped to consider the root of the feeling of being overwhelmed? Personally I believe the root of all feelings of being overwhelmed to be a subconscious expectation that has been shaken.

Is this a bad thing? Not really, because at least in my case, my expectations have been firmly put into check. Now I realize that it is impossible to live without expectations. For example if I eat I expect to eventually get full, if I turn my key in my ignition I expect my car to start, if I stick a fork in a light socket I expect to get shocked. Life teaches us expectations so telling someone “just go in expecting nothing” is nonsensical. For example I expect my instructor to speak to me in English, not Klingon (that mysterious Star Trek race of beings with the funny foreheads that sound like Germans).

So instead of dropping your expectations, next time you feel overwhelmed break the problem down to its root cause and maybe you won’t feel so bad. For instance I feel overwhelmed right now because I expected something different, so since my expectations were wrong, I’ll push on and try to leave my emotions out of it, either way the work needs to get done, how I feel about it at the time is entirely up to me.

Hope this helps.

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Published Thursday, June 07, 2007 2:30 AM by Cajun

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helenh said:

My, my, we're up late! Cajun, I'm up right now, because I was laying in bed not able to stop thinking about work,  so what the hell, might as well jump back in. I think your comments are dead-on ... I feel SOOO overwhelmed right now I could cry!  I get into these modes where I feel like, Hey, sleep is overrated, I'm Wonder Woman! I can work 12-15 hour days on a consistent basis, no problem-o! I would only disagree with lowering your expectations IF it's your expectations that are your root problem ... thanks for keeping me up even later now ...

June 7, 2007 4:00 AM
 

MichelleA said:

I'm definitely no stranger to the "being overwhelmed" feeling.  Since I started college I have fallen prey to it.  I had to take classes where I just didn't understand the subject matter... at all.  No matter how very hard I tried or what I did.  It wasn't just one class at a time either, it was two or 3 out of the 7 that I was taking.  It felt like no matter what I did it was never enough to help me understand this stuff.  I kept on plugging away at it anyway and while my grades were not *great*, I really worked hard for them and got through the classes.  On particularly bad nights of doing homework it would hit like, 3 or 4 AM and I couldn't help but cry.

I found that most of the time, my problem wasn't my expectations, but that I was letting the work get to me.  My brain was too busy freaking out about the assignments to focus totally on them.  It makes it so much easier when you just DO the assignment without worrying about doing it.  It's still difficult to remember NOT to freak out, but it really does help!  :-P  :-)

~Mich

June 7, 2007 9:22 AM
 

Victoria said:

I have a tendency to let fear and anxiety be the driving force behind my feelings of being overwhelmed, and it stops me from getting things done. Whether the problem is doing my taxes or figuring out the new coding for my HTML class, I know that the best solution for me to just suck it up and dive right in.

And when it gets to be too much, I let it out. ALL of it!! When it's all said and done, I barely remember those feelings at all, just the simple satisfaction of being done with it. Isn't that silly?

June 7, 2007 5:08 PM
 

Cajun said:

Feeling overwhelmed is an emotional reaction to your situation.  If you can compartmentalize the emotion, you will work a lot more efficiently and effectively but doing that is easier said than done.

I’m not really saying that changing your expectations is necessary or even feasible being that many of our expectations are ingrained into us at the subconscious level and cannot be separated.  

And there is nothing silly about feeling overwhelmed, it is an emotion and since we are all human, when we continually  push ourselves (as you, me and others seeking an education do), the feeling will inevitably rear its ugly head, but the feeling will diminish once the work is done where only the result will remain.  I find this motivates me on to the next task, sometimes with a little more confidence.  

June 7, 2007 5:59 PM
 

helenh said:

I made a decision (after I got a few hours of sleep and then went right back to work) - I chose to feel differently, i.e. not overwhelmed. I had a little help from my almost 3-year-old daughter. I filled up her kiddie pool and picked her early from day care today to surprise her. The delight in her eyes and the happy squeals that came out of her totally put me at ease again. She's watching a Care Bears DVD and  I'm working (again), but I feel much better. Thanks for all the input everyone!

June 7, 2007 6:49 PM
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About Cajun

Cajun is 31-years-old and currently employed as a Project Analyst for an Information Technology department at a major financial firm. He has recently changed careers after spending 7 years in Federal Law enforcement of which he spent 5 years as a supervisor. His management experience combined with the MBA he finished in October, 2008 allowed for a career change even in the face of these uncertain economic times.

Cajun was introduced to the concept of distance education while working full-time as a law enforcement officer with a demanding and unpredictable schedule, obtaining an Associate of Science degree in Criminal Justice from Ashworth College, a Bachelor of Science degree in Criminal Justice from Southwestern College of Winfield, KS graduating Magna Cum Laude and a Master of Business Administration with an emphasis in Organizational Leadership from Ashford University. To further his new career Cajun will be working towards a Master of Science in Management of Information Systems with an emphasis in Project Management from Bellevue University.

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Vanessa is a 24-year-old stay-at-home mom, wife, military spouse, and veteran. She started her online education while she was still in the Navy. After receiving an honorable discharge, getting married, and having two beautiful girls in two years, she is still going strong with her education at Ashford University. She is currently doubling up on classes with hopes to attend graduation December 2009 with a Bachelor's in Business Administration.

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